Bring Out The Natural Leadership In
Your Child
Your Child Is Already a Leader
What is a Leader?
Every parent wants his or her child to be a
leader. You have visions of them running a giant corporation of being a
world famous player on the world stage. That is what you want. But
how do you help your child develop the leadership skills you believe he or she
should have?
We start by understanding what it means to be a
leader. A leader is not someone who bosses people around. What is
leadership? What does a leader really provide for his or her followers? All the
information we need is on the internet, in the library, on cassettes or videos.
We can find step by step guidelines to do just about anything we want to do. So
why do we need leaders?
Leaders are the keepers of our permitteds. What are
permitteds and what do they matter in our lives?
Who in this culture tells us what is okay to
do? Where do we get our cues as to what is permissible and what is
not? Don't we get them from the athletes who live among us?
An athlete is an entertainer. No matter how talented,
if people do not come to see an athlete, the team will go broke. An entertainer
is someone who is paid according to the number of people who want to watch him
or her. That means that your job as a n athlete is to be entertaining, to be
worth watching, to be watchable.
As a member of any youth soccer or youth sports
activity, your child is an entertainer. Athletes, people are looking at
you. Popular athletes command more money because people not only see you on the
playing field or court, they see you in commercials, in personal
appearance.
Every day you should tell your
child, "You are already a leader in your world.
You are a unique being, with your own unique set of education, experience,
lifestyle, goals, dreams and hopes. You are infinitely talented. You have many
potentials, though they may not have been tapped.
You are held back by old tapes, fears or constraints
of the environment which you are living. Perhaps no one has shared with you the
Truth of your being. Maybe no one has ever told you who and what you are.
You are a leader!"
Your soccer athlete will be looked at as a
professional athletes who gains self esteem by "being seen" by fellow students,
the things he or she does while being seen are things others will imitate. Your
athlete will be performing as a "being seen leader" and is automatically
telling others, especially the young, what is "okay to do" or what they are
permitted to do. Every word you say, every act you do, every look you give, is
giving someone "permission" to act. As an athlete, you are already a leader.
Leaders Give Us Our Permitteds
Leaders give us our permitteds. They enable us to
actually perform what our bodes and minds know how to do. Many youth
athletes have talent, but unless their self esteem is high enough, those
athletes will not give peak performance in their games.
The purpose of the coach is to give permission to
succeed. The coach is the number one holder of "Permitteds" or permission
to perform. But your youngster can become a leader by building self esteem
in other, saying self esteem building words and giving support. He can
demonstrate what you do when someone makes a mistake. Your child can
serve as a model of true soccer decorum. Don't neglect to tell his of your
responsibilities as a leader. Help him or her see that he or she is now at
a different level in their lives and everything they do will be imitated by
others.
Your child can be the leader who helps
other kids to achieve peak performance. By his or her behavior they can enable
others to do what the other kids already know how to They can give them
permission to perform. They can tell us them it is okay to do what we know how
to do. They can tell them what we can do and still belong to the group. As a
leader, your child will enable the team to perform better and succeed
more.
You Are Invited To Share With The
Children of Honduras
The
Vital Mission Of Soccer For Life - Teaching Our Children
and youth sports for
personal development. In support of this mission, Dr. Carol Cross,
Founder and International Director of Soccer for Life invites you to
participate in Soccer Action For A Green World, the environmental soccer
program. Soccer Action for a Green World creates confluence between
youth in developed countries including the USA, Canada, European countries,
Japan, Taiwan, South Korea, New Zealand, Australia, South Africa and youth
in developing countries. Confluence or moving together alongside is
one of the most pressing needs of the 21st century. Young people
growing up today are going decide if it is war or peace. They will
decide to create friendships with those from other cultures or to act like
enemies. In addition, they are going to decide if our world will be
green or brown, hot or normal. Through Soccer Action For A Green
World, our youth can build friendships, create new ideas, develop projects
to fight global warming and change the world into a better place.